Happy House-iversary to Us!

The Gingerbread Diaries

I’m so glad I finally told the roof tale last week and got it out of the way before today, the anniversary of our buying the Gingerbread Dollhouse.

Flashback to a year ago to-date.

Flashback to a year ago to-date.(And no worries, we changed the locks shortly after this picture was taken.)

We had some ups and a number of downs this year, but overall we’re still very happy to be homeowners, especially of the Dollhouse.

For the paper anniversary I’m afraid we haven’t done anything special for our pink lady–unless you count throwing dollars at her! As I mentioned, before, we were waiting until our taxes were tallied for 2014, just in case we owed anything (we did, but it wasn’t as bad as we were afraid–a busy convention season helped offset some of it), before starting any major renovations. Taxes were submitted on Sunday so we’re more or less clear to plan, right?

Except for a little analysis paralysis, that is: too many choices, too many places we could start.

But let’s go back to paper for a minute, shall we? Namely: wall paper.

Our rose-filtered entryway.

Our rose-filtered entryway.

We get a lot of compliments on the pretty rose wallpaper in the front hall and stairwell, but it’s just not in great shape. I thought I had my mind made up that we wouldn’t paper any of the walls, but I’m so used to seeing this pattern I’m afraid the entry would look terribly boring if we just chose a color scheme and painted.

If I’ve learned one thing from all the Victorian home magazines I read while we not-so-patiently waited (3 months, 3 weeks, and 3 days) to close, it’s that Bradbury & Bradbury is THE place to go for period-perfect wall papers. They are beautifully silk-screened art wallpapers made in California and the weight of the samples I received is amazing: not too flimsy, but not as heavy as some wallpaper samples I’ve crafted with in the past.

It so happens that Bradbury & Bradbury is also the wallpaper of choice for a very popular “landmark” of a slightly more modern era…

Image via Disney.Go

Image via Disney.Go

Yup, the Haunted Mansion.  In fact, they use patterns from the Victorian-Era Dresser II (named for designers Christopher Dresser, 1834-1904) in the Ashes of Roses colorway.

Screenshot from Bradbury.com

Screenshot from Bradbury.com

I ordered samples of both the Ashes of Roses colorway as well as the Terra Cotta/Burgundy colorway as well.

Screenshot via Bradbury.com

Screenshot via Bradbury.com

The “Lily” pattern is a touch too busy for my taste, but the Roland could definitely work, at least going up the stairs at about chair rail-height, topped with the Pinstripe Border. Above that, we might stick to just paint or use one of the more subtle patterns (not grabbed in the above screenshot), the Plaza Ceiling with its metallic pattern.

Now, it goes without saying that these are beautiful patterns in their own right, but the fact that they have a tie to one of our favorite places without being obnoxiously obvious is the kind of fun trivia that makes the decision more compelling.

I don’t know when we’ll bite the bullet and repaper the stairwell, but I’m almost certain it’ll be with this paper. Of course, there’s the not-so-small matter of needing to replace the front door (and the back door, and while we’re at it maybe the kitchen door, too) and frame, which means finding one I like that doesn’t look too modern for the house and in a material that Todd’s comfortable with that (of course) won’t break the bank.

Here’s to many long years ahead of us in the Dollhouse!

We've come a long way, baby!

We’ve come a long way, baby! From this before

To the after (so far)!

To the after (so far)!

It’s 2015… Now What?

Everyday Adventures

The last few months of 2014 were one bit of bad news after another. For us, for our friends and loved ones, for our country in some cases. While I know that “bad things” happen all the time to all sorts of people, it seemed my little local community’s number came up in the bad-luck lottery more times that usual, lately.

Which is why I’m so happy that 2015 is finally here.

Sure, the changing from one calendar year to another is, technically, an arbitrary designation. It’s not like it’s tied to the equinox or certain planetary alignments, it’s just a page turn. But we need markers in our lives–birthdays, anniversaries, school starts and stops, or even a calendar’s page turn to serve as handy reminders of the passage of time. And, of course, these reminders also sometimes spur us into action. That still small voice reminding us that there’s no time like the present to catch up on one project or start a new one.

Picking a word for the upcoming year is a fun thing to do. Two years ago my word was Growth, last year’s was Respect. This year my word is Forward. Especially in light of recent events (not meaning to be vague, just choosing not to dwell on the specifics), it’s important for me, in 2015, to keep looking forward, to keep moving ahead with plans and dreams, and to not spend more time than absolutely necessary worrying about the past. It’s not ignoring history (thus dooming me to repeat it, right?), it’s moving on from it!

Along with the word of the year, I like to set goals instead of resolutions. The difference is semantic, but words have power and I prefer the associations I have with goals over the alternatives. Last year one of my main goals was to buy the Dollhouse. We all know how that ended up (difficult process, ultimate victory). Another goal of mine was to be on the guest list for 6 conventions in 2014 and while I don’t talk about What to Feed Your Raiding Party business much over here, I managed to achieve that goal, too, even though we ultimately had to cancel one appearance this fall. There were others, but those were the biggies, the ones I really worked on.

I haven’t decided on all my goals for 2015, yet, but I have a few that are already pretty important:

Take a vacation for our second anniversary.

Does this really count as a goal? Absolutely! All those conventions we went to last year? They ate up all our vacation time for 2014. It was something we knew would happen, going into it, but it doesn’t change the fact that every weekend away in 2014 was a working weekend. We had fun, but I want more for us this year. Which, yes, means doing fewer conventions (more on that in a bit), but it’s sort of like paying yourself first: you plan that downtime in and work around it rather than trying to find it later.

Publish 2.5 books.

This, in part, plays into the fewer conventions. I’ve been travelling with the original Raiding Party cookbook for 2.5 years. There comes a time when you need to have something new to show people, but writing the next book while actively touring with the first one just hasn’t happened. So I’ve “grounded” myself from conventions until the next cookbook is ready. In addition to the next cookbook, I have a supplement to the first one that I’ve been picking at for over a year–that’s the .5 book in my goal–and I need to get that out of the way once and for all; both because people are asking for it and to get it out of the way of the next book. The final book is also food-related, but not part of the Raiding Party series: it’s a book on Low-FODMAP living that combines what I post about here on the subject with the rest of my experiences and the answers to the questions I get emailed.

Not that those are my only book projects for 2015, they’re just the main goals. I have a creativity workshop I’m working on, and I just published a printable planner in my Etsy shop–the same planner I designed to be just right in 2014 and road-tested all year is now updated and expanded and ready for the world!

You can find my planner in my Etsy shop: Helper Monkey Designs

You can find my planner in my Etsy shop: Helper Monkey Designs

I’ll be going over some of my organizational strategies in the next few weeks if you’re curious about how I developed the different parts of the planner.

And now the big one…

I’m a big believer in putting things out to the Universe, and while I’ve mentioned it to some friends in private, here goes for the big world-wide reveal: I want to open a store this year.

Not an online shop, not my Etsy store, no. I mean an honest-to-goodness, brick-and-mortar, mailing address-having, lock-and-key, clients-walking-in arts and craft supply store.

(Okay, that was a little fun-scary to type out.)

I’ve always wanted to work for myself, to be more in charge of my own destiny. Up until a few months ago, though, that plan always looked like working from home as a writer and artist. And that’s still part of the picture more or less, but in November I was reading our community newspaper and something just jumped out at me: they are building/fostering a Creative District as part of the downtown shopping area and, yet, there’s no craft stores in the city. There’s a small craft section at the local WalMart, the usual small drawing supply section in Office Depot, and teacher supplies at a downtown store catering to childhood development and creative play. But for everything else, Thomasville residents have to go out of town or order online.

Fast on the heels of the realization of the gap, came the certainty that I could be the person to fill that gap. I’ve got the business know-how thanks to 18 years keeping books for a small corporation. I’ve got the craft chops, not to mention the wonderful people and companies I’ve been fortunate to have relationships with thanks to being part of various Design Teams over the last few years. The business plan I’m developing includes provisions for classes–hearkening back to my days as a Wilton-Method cake decorating instructor and my time spent writing tutorials for eHow.com!

Basically, this is what I’ve been building towards without even knowing it.

So the hunt is on for the perfect location, the building of the business plan that will convince a bank that it’s as good an idea as everyone else thinks it is (that’s the biggest hurdle, I think), and the personal preparations for the total upheaval this would mean for my life (and Todd’s, for that matter–thankfully he’s 100% supportive of this idea; I don’t think I’d even try without it!). It’s not something that’s going to all happen tomorrow, but it’s something I’m working towards and, for now, with a few steps forward each day, I’ll get there.

I have a lot more goals. Things like updating a room in the Dollhouse, creating a video series for the cookbook, reading 75 books (and keeping track of them), painting 10 10×10″ canvases, becoming more active in my local community, create some art licensing collections, do more freelance work, etc. They’re all valid. Even little goals are important. But I signal out those three because they are the benchmarks that I’ll eventually judge 2015 by, judge myself, that is. They represent big leaps forward.

Feel free to question me about these goals: today, 6 months from now, 9 months from now. That’s the whole point of publicly stating them: public accountability.

Are you making goals for this year? I’d love to hear them, and I’d love even more to see you achieve them!

Your Secret to the Perfect Party Revealed!

Nibbles

Organization.

Yeah, okay, not exactly a big secret, right? But I lost track of how many people said ‘I don’t know how you did it’ or something similar at or after the Halloween party. Because, yes, when the dining room table is fully extended and still barely contains everything, it does look like a lot of work.

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That’s roughly 24 square feet of deliciousness.

So the “secret” is organization, and the strategy is divide and conquer.

Food is always a big part of all my parties. If you leave my house hungry, it’s your own damn fault. I like there to be a good variety and enough so that I don’t have to worry about running out of food before the fun is done. But it’s true that time is of the essence, so being organized to a fault is a plus and being reasonable with my expectations. Once I figure our what I’m making, I put it in order of what holds best on down to what must be made just before serving and then I start making 1-3 things a night for the week leading up to the party.

But what to make and how much of it? Catering math is the completion of the party-planning trifecta.

Catering math involves 3 variables and simple multiplication (yes, you can use a calculator if you need to).

  • How many people do you expect?
  • How long will the party last?
  • Will dinner be served?

If you’re serving nibbles before a dinner, you don’t need as many hors d’oeuvres otherwise your guests will be too full to enjoy the meal. But if all you’re serving is cocktail food (especially if it’s during the main lunch or dinner window) you need to have enough to serve as the meal. So for a party with both snacks and dinner, it’s 5 pieces per person per hour. Without a dinner planned it’s 10 pieces per person per hour. Simple as that!

Catering math made simple.

Catering math made simple.

For the Halloween party I figured on around 25 people for 5 hours or so with no separate meal served, which means I needed somewhere in the vicinity of 1250 (25x5x10) pieces for the evening.

1250 pieces sounds like a lot, but when you figure that–for instance–each veggie on a veggie tray, each meatball, each little cookie counts as a piece (and a bigger cookie counts as a 2 or 3 pieces), the numbers start adding up quickly. And if you’re serving things that a little bigger, you can fudge those numbers even more. So as I add things to my party menu, I note how many pieces I’m expecting out of each and I can keep a running total as I build it out. The number is a guide, though, and you have to know your guests and adjust accordingly.

I also make my shopping list, prep schedule, and plan for serving pieces while I make the menu: a one stop planning doc!

I also make my shopping list, prep schedule, and plan for serving pieces while I make the menu: a one stop planning doc!

Something else I do as I make my menu is to categorize the dishes by content, texture, and temperature as well as taste. Having a balance between sweet and savory is often as far as a lot of hosts go, but I like to make sure I plan options that are both crunchy and creamy, hot and cold, plus a good mix of vegetarian options among the more carnivore-friendly. It’s all about the mix, just like the mix of people you invite over!

Preparing for this year’s party was surprisingly chill. I kept up with my prep schedule and Todd and I kept everything moving so that on the day of the party there was no last minute rush before the guests arrived and we were able to greet our guests as calm and collected hosts. I hope these tips help you navigate your next party in similar form!

Tuesday Reviews-Day: TGIP (Thank Goodness It’s Publix!)

Tuesday Revews-Day

Every area has their local favorites of every sort of vendor, and there’s usually a regional grocery chain that inspires a deep, unabiding love in its patrons. For those of us in the southeastern US, that grocery store is very likely Publix.

People may make fun of the name (and plenty of visitors have butchered the pronunciation–it’s public with an s, by the way) but no one who’s had one of their birthday cakes or their white mountain bread will accept any jeering at the chain’s expense. The stores are bright and clean and the shelves are stocked with a wide variety of products, even in the smaller locations, with the larger, newer shops including fancy cheese selections and extended Greenwise (organic, etc.) sections.  Many area brides opt for a Publix wedding cake over an independent bakery for more reasons than just price and people who’ve moved out of the area practically salivate at the mention of a Publix deli’s sub.

Turns out, their wraps are just as tasty.

For this weekend’s move it was only right to feed our crew as a (beginning of a) thank you for their help. We started with bagels, doughnuts, and coffee from Dunkin’ Doughnuts before loading the truck, and then lunch after the truck was empty at our destination. Not that we made it in one trip, but that’s a story for another day.

Pizza is pretty usual for this sort of thing: it’s quick, they deliver, and feeds a crowd fairly well. But pizza requires either good timing or waiting, and quick alternatives like anything drive-thru turn out not to be quick when you’re ordering in multiples of 5. This is where the Publix deli comes in.

On Thursday before the move I called with the intent of ordering a sub platter, but while browsing the website I saw they offered a Wrap Platter, as well. Thinking that wraps would be a touch lighter for what was shaping up to be a hot weekend, I ordered an assorted wrap platter, Medium-sized, with Boar’s Head meats and cheeses. Even though the small platter feeds 8-12, it’s actually only 6 wraps cut up, so I worried that it wouldn’t be enough for a group of 5 who’d worked up a healthy appetite moving furniture and boxes. I was right.

image via Publix.com--I was too busy moving on Saturday to take pictures

image via Publix.com–I was too busy moving on Saturday to take pictures

For $60 (I picked up some bags of kettle chips as well as a small fruit bowl as well; the platter was $45 alone) we fed the five of us for lunch that day, Todd and I for supper that night, and us again for lunch on Sunday. They’d called a couple hours before the platter pick-up time to verify if I wanted mayo and mustard on the subs and if I had a cheese preference or just wanted assorted. They could have just done the assorted meats as the original order was written, but I appreciated the follow-up. When I arrived right at noon to pick it up it was ready and waiting, nice and chilled from the cooler.

And, of course, the most important thing was that the wraps were divine. Turkey, roast beef, and ham were matched up with at least Provolone, American, and cheddar cheeses on white, whole wheat, tomato, and spinach wraps and sliced into 3-4 pieces each so that it was easy to get a good sampling of all of it in a few pieces. I didn’t ask if they had gluten-free wraps, instead I just ate the insides (Todd ate most of my cast-off wrappers).

Ordering the wraps was probably the best decision we made of the entire move, even though that’s not saying much all things considered(as you’ll hear if you come back on Thursday for the next house update). IF we ever have this situation in the future or anything like it, you can bet I’ll be calling upon the Publix deli to help me out again.

This was not a sponsored post, I am receiving no compensation or consideration for sharing this, I just think they did a fabulous job and it was worth sharing!

Our First Planning Day

Third Time Wife, Wedding Planning

One of the downsides to booking our venue and the DoC that came with it, is there was a looong gap between reserving it (April 2012) and any planning meetings for the event which start at 6 months out.

More than ready to get this show on the road, I emailed our contact (who was also our DoC) this April to set up that first planning session. Imagine my alarm when the email bounced back as a non-existent address. Realizing that staff changes could have happened in the past year, I didn’t panic too much until I resent the email to the main weddings@ address and it came back as restricted!

Now, rationally I knew that we had a signed contract and they’d take our deposit, so there was no way we weren’t having our wedding at HLP. But rational thought is not always driving this bus–sometimes I think my brain has this worst case scenario blanket over the top of it as I always seem to jump to it and play through the what-ifs for hours. I’ve done this throughout my life so I’m used to it, and at times I think it helps me be prepared for when things actually do go awry, but it was a few tense days, waiting for someone to return my calls, worrying that in the transition our contract had been overlooked and the venue might have been double-booked in the last year.

Bride Brain illustration by Miss Road Trip

illustration by Miss Road Trip

Turns out our original contact had opted not to return after her maternity leave (which, hey, more power to her) and that the current event planner just hadn’t gotten down to us on her list of folks to contact. Now, I’m still pretty irked that we weren’t notified of the personnel change since it does affect us, but after talking with our new planner, Stephanie, I felt much more at ease. Whew!

Meeting set, and scheduled for the only Saturday in May that there wasn’t a wedding going on there, I wondered why it’d take 2 hours for this meeting considering how much we’d already discussed with the former planner via emails, etc. before we signed the contract.

Well, folks, count 2 strikes for the former event planner because she left the incoming staff no. information. whatsoever. As in, when we sat down with Stephanie all she had was a copy of our contract, not even the proposal (with all the details) that the contract was based upon. And there was no way to get into the former planner’s email records either.

Grrrr

Good thing I’m also the type to over prepare, just in case of situations like this!

Unfortunately, more than just the staff had changed since we booked Honey Lake for our wedding.

  • We weren’t the first couple to have been promised colored table linens at no extra charge, but since it was’t specifically in our contract and just a verbal agreement, it wasn’t one we could make stick. So now we’re looking into rentals vs buying outright.
  • Thankfully we did have the BYO wine and signature cocktail written into the contract, because they no longer allow that! Still, we’ve opted to go with them providing the beer on-consumption for the guests that prefer that over the wine we’re providing. And while they do require bartenders these days, they also provide them at no extra charge, so that works out all the way around.
  • They’d also asked if we would be willing to change our lodging option from the Obo Suite (little 1-bedroom quarters attached to the main lodge) to one of the Pines cottages. While I wasn’t super-thrilled to give up the suite, the cottage does give us more getting ready room (2, 2-bed rooms, each with full baths) plus a sitting room but it’s slightly less charming and sort of overkill on the beds (it sleeps 8!). Still, they were concerned that the hunting party that rented the lodge for that weekend might make our stay less that serene, and I can appreciate that.
  • And on the very good front, they’ve now added sound system support for the grounds–originally it was only available in the main event spaces and the chapel. The fee for using their system is probably double of what renting the Passport system and speakers we were planning on, but the lack of hassle having to pick up/set up/break down/return the equipment ourselves is worth the convenience fee.

Oh, and it turns out we’re actually allowed to hang stuff on the walls! Bonus!

The main thing I wanted–no, NEEDED!–to get out of this meeting was table information. See, for months I felt like I was spinning my wheels on some big projects because I couldn’t really see how everything was going to go together. So once we walked the spaces with numbers in mind and started talking about specifics, I was galvanized into action by the time we got home and started revising my lists that night. Finally I knew how many centerpieces I needed and how many tables we would have for the cocktail hour and just where everything would be.

And a good thing, too, because suddenly our long (28 month) engagement is down to just under 4 months and I’m not sure I could have survived any more waiting around!

Did you have to deal with any panic-inducing moments from your venue or other vendors?